Is a lack of confidence holding us back?
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Is a lack of confidence holding us back? – 14th October 2015
Welcome to #womenswednesday this week! Our question is one we hope you can all join in on as I am sure that at some point we have all suffered with a lack of confidence at some level.
In a recent blog written by Catherine Baker called “From Good to Great; Which Roles Do you Excel In”, a number of points were raised which got us thinking…do female coaches need to work on developing their confidence levels more than male coaches?
Coaching is a very unique profession in that, the job description (if there is one!) is never clearly defined, always changes and encompasses countless roles within the one job. Whilst you may go to your sports federation or national governing body to learn ‘what to coach’ and the technical aspects of the sport, as we all know, coaching involves an awful lot more and can often test our abilities and confidence when we least expect it.
Catherine identifies just a few of those extra roles including a “Teacher, Motivator, Communicator, Counsellor, Organiser and planner, Role model, Supporter”, how about being a tactician, public speaker, . But what if you are not confident in being any of these roles?
Another recent blog to mention is one written by the new UEFA B Licenced Football Coach, Jazz Hervin who mentions in her piece called “From a Boarder Line Pass’ Level 2 Coach, to the holder of a UEFA B License in 3 years“ that a lack of confidence played a role in just an ‘okay’ performance; “But I definitely didn’t have much confidence to show people the technique or skill. I was nervous to share my knowledge in case it was wrong.” This lack of confidence resulted in her receiving a ‘boarder line pass’, which did not reflect all the hard work she had put into the course.
As women, we are the first to hold ourselves back and say ‘I can’t do that’, ‘I’m not good enough for that’. There is a statistic that says: “Men apply for a job when they meet only 60% of the qualifications, but women apply only if they meet 100% of them.”
And why is this… is it due to a lack of confidence?
So this week, we want to pose the question: “Is a lack of confidence holding us back?”
* Have you ever missed a job / coaching opportunity because you doubted your ability?
* Do you feel a lack of confidence is more predominant in female coaches?
* How can we ensure that female coaches in the future learn from our mistakes and gain confidence?
* Are you currently working on developing your confidence? How?
Answers from twitter & FCN forum
“yes yes and yes!
The amount of female coaches i see and know who don’t put themselves forward for things is incredible! A male coach will always step up, even if they don’t actually think they are 100% capable!
I do think having a lack of female coaches is partly due to women not stepping up.”
“I couldn’t agree more – and no one seems to be doing anything about it.
In the US, there are countless courses, organisations etc which support female (and male) coaches in developing themselves as people – which then allows them to become better coaches – and no mention of it in the UK. And by nature, UK people are not confident people…so it MUST be a focus of all coaches.”
“I can only talk for myself. The answer to all questions is no. What I often come across is the “Old Boys Networks” where jobs are not given away by merit but by whom you know.”
” I think learning from our own mistakes can be the best way to get experience/gain confidence”
“No. Why should it be? Confidence is built on coaching ability, skill sets – if you’ve got it, you can flaunt it!”
“Definitely! I got more nervous as a coach than I ever did as an athlete! Commit (to the plan), then courage, then confidence!”
“Can’t be human & not experience some doubt at some point in your career @FemaleCN Key is how to get grounded after feeling unsteady #mentors”
“I also think lack of confidence, fear, stress they are all good and necessary, we just need to teach how to use negative emotion”